add hashdata extension storage_am related hook,

[wangliang03]

All the QE will return its storage_am feature related meta data by control data tunnel,
we add hook when the QD processing the data returned from control data tunnel.

and also rewrite the check condiation for update scenario to make a wholerow attribute
for not only the appendonly table but all the tables except heap table including our
new hashdata involved table format.

closes: #ISSUE_Number

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Change logs

for involving new hashdata table format extension , we need to a hook to process QE returned message,
also change a update scenario check condition to let new format table make a wholerow attribute.

If it has some breaking backward or forward compatibility, please clary.
no

Why are the changes needed?

currently there is no way to let the extension to control the message which QE returned on QD, we need a hook
to let the extension work its way.

Describe why the changes are necessary.
if there is such hook, extension cannot handle the message it returned from QE

Does this PR introduce any user-facing change?

If yes, please clarify the previous behavior and the change this PR proposes.
no

How was this patch tested?

Please detail how the changes were tested, including manual tests and any relevant unit or integration tests.
it is well test with my extension code, including insert./update/delete/select scenarios

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